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Single mother of a 13 year old son who has a co-morbid diagnosis of the following: Autism (Aspergers), Tourettes Syndrome, OCD, ADHD, ODD and Multiple Anxiety Disorders.
Single mum of four and a nanna of one beautiful little girl. I WAS lost for a long time and now I have found myself. I was lost in the forest with many trees, not knowing where to go or who to turn to. But, here I am still a little bit lost sometimes but that’s okay,
My branches are heavy from carrying the weight of other peoples stuff, all because I cant say no, why the hell is that I ask myself, is it the guilt from the past that keeps raising its ugly head, who knows. I am about to embark on a journey of absolute selfishness, yes you heard me right, from now on I’m putting myself first, in order to be the person I want to be and not just a mum and nana.
For to long now I have been wallowing in what I can only describe as a tsunami of self pity and what seems like an eternity of hell. Working on myself has been really hard especially in the beginning learning and accepting myself warts and all, that actually its ok that some days I feel like crap and have down days that I don’t have everything covered and actually I am ok with that. I am a decent human being, at last I can say that. Whether or not at that precise moment I believe it or not, I know in the long run I’m doing what I need to do to reach where I want to be. After all this is my journey and only I can change myself, I cannot change other people I dont have to keep putting myself in the firing line.
Today I have to accept that certain situations are completly out of my hands,but what I have got control of is the way I handle these situations, purely because I want a different outcome I’m fed up going round and round in circles and not getting anywhere. anyone can scream and shout it may even make you feel better, but in long run the after effects will leave you numb, there is always another way as much as in the begining I thought you had to scream and shout to get heard but in fact its quite the opposite nobody listens when you shout. I know if someones shouting at me I lock off.